Live empowers or make you powerless

Jealousy and Suspicion are the curse of Middle Class .Does Love make empowers you or make a powerless .

These two statements made  me read an article about Love.  Majority  of the middle class are confused with the word Love and they vacillate their optimism from love professed  by preachers and scholars to their inner voices . They are happy in love , they put their partner on pedestal and when the same love make  them unhappy , they blame on everything but themselves .,

Love has nothing to do if one is single or married , if one is celibate or not . Most of them have not understood the meaning of love because they equated this with sex , lust , marriage or acquiescence.

Some  prefer to remain single or unattached  because they fear love . They need to unmask themselves in front of mirror and understand that  no one has power over you unless you choose to let them. In other words, no one can take your power unless you give it — not even a romantic partner or companion !

Sadly, a lot of people think this way. They think that falling in love means giving away your power — giving someone else the power to hurt you and control you in ways no one else can. The reality is, real love doesn’t mean giving away your power. In fact, it means gaining more power!

When someone really loves you, you don’t have to worry about them using your insecurities and weaknesses to destroy you. Love isn’t cruel and it isn’t vengeful. Someone who loves you would never set out to purposely hurt you! That is abuse, and love can not exist where there is abuse.

What’s more, the act of loving someone is a choice. You can’t help falling in love with someone, but you can choose how you act on it. You can choose to set mutually acceptable boundaries, and not allow them to control you, and to not allow them to hurt you.

Being a victim is a choice. We don’t have to be controlled by our feelings and no one can hurt us unless we choose to let them. We decide whose actions are worth being hurt over because we are the carvers of our own destiny.

If someone requires that you give your power to them and become codependent in some way, then they are not in love with you and they do not have your best interests at heart.

Seeking to control someone is not love. 

There’s a reason why that saying exists that you should let someone go if you love them. Respecting someone’s freewill is love, while seeking to control them stems from fear, which is over on the good ol’ hate spectrum.

Real love will never mean giving your power away or losing yourself in another person. Real love means sustaining all power and individuality.

“But how does love empower you?” you ask.

Someone who really loves you will always believe in you, stand by you in the hard times, encourage you when you fail, support you in endeavors that are important to you, cheer for your dreams.

Someone who loves you wants to see you succeed. They want to see you flourish. They want to see you happy. And just knowing this — that you are supported and loved — is empowering in ways that are beyond your highest good.Yes, it’s true that there are people out there who will manipulate you and control you and ultimately try to steal your power. But again, you don’t have to let them. You don’t have to be a victim! And if you want to find true love, you have to be willing to risk getting hurt.

Those who are afraid to realise or express love are weak by nature and have self doubt of loving themselves . Love is not for the fearful or the faint of heart.