Saturday, May 20, 2017

Smart phone and Internet redefining the relationships:

Smart phone and Internet redefining the relationships: (adapted from the article of Ankush Bahuguna)

Human evolution began 6 Million years ago by adapting  physical and behavioral traits  from apelike ancestors is now ready for  another evolution of relationship behavioural pattern of human beings .With the advent of smart phone and net , we no longer seek love but only excitement and thrill in life. We want someone to watch movies and party with, not someone who understands us even in our deepest silences. We spend time together but don’t intend to keep  memories. We don’t want the boring life. We don’t want a partner for life, just someone who can make us feel alive right now, this very instant. When the excitement fades, we discover nobody ever prepared us for the mundane. We don’t believe in the beauty of predictability because we’re too blinded by the thrill of adventure.

We have immersed in ourselves with no space for love. We don’t have time to love, we don’t have the patience to deal with relationships . They  are nothing more than convenience. We look for instant gratification in everything we do – the things we post online, the careers we choose, and the people we fall in love with. We have become impatient to wait for the maturity  to evolve in a relationship that comes with time, the emotional connect that develops over years. Apparently, nothing’s worth our time and patience – not even love.

We’d rather spend an hour each with a hundred people than spending a day with one. We believe in having ‘options’. We’re ‘social’ people. We believe more in meeting people than getting to know them. We have become greedy and want to have everything. We get into relationships at the slightest attraction and step out, the moment we find someone better. We don’t want to bring out the best in that one person. We want them to be perfect. We date a lot of people but rarely give any of them a real chance. We’re disappointed in everyone.

Technology has brought us closer, so close that it’s impossible to breathe. Our physical presence has been replaced by texts, voice messages, snapchats and video calls. We don’t feel the need to spend time together anymore. We have too much of each other already. There’s nothing left to talk about.

We have become a generation of ‘wanderers’ who wouldn’t stay at one place for too long and eager to pronounce that we  don’t conform to social norms. Sex outside relationships isn’t a taboo anymore and we took it to our advantage of calling ourselves as
' sexually liberated’.  ' Take it or Leave it ' " Hook-up or break-up " are new buzzwords . We have sex first and then decide if we want to love someone but without realisation that Sex comes easy, loyalty doesn’t.  We love  because we want to feel good. Temporary fulfilment is our food for ecstasy. In the process , we coined   open relationships, friends with benefits, causal flings, one-night stands, no strings attached – we’ve left very little exclusivity for love in our lives.

Have we become too pragmatic to live our live by  by logic alone.  ' Madly in love ' phrase may be confined to romantic novels .Will we value relationships anymore ?  Or with deluge of social virtual relationship , We shall let go of the most wonderful people for ‘the other fishes in the sea.’ And we may not have time to think about them as we may not  consider them sacred anymore.